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Asking for help

I don’t know about you but I have a really hard time asking for help. I’ve always been so independent and headstrong, I carry that “I don’t need no body” mentality. Stubborn as I may be, it’s also a self protective mechanism. Nobody can let me down, disappoint me or reject me, if I never ask for help, if I never count on someone or depend on them. If you want something done right, do it yourself, but what if you physically can’t, what if you don’t know how, what if you simply can’t do it yourself?

Part of my growth process is letting go of my past, moving on from any and all disappointments, letting go of my trauma and heartache. I have grown and realized those that hurt me in my past are not the same in my present. People love me and want to help, but how can they help if I never let them, how will they know what I need or the hardships I have if I never tell them. I have to allow myself to be vulnerable and allow those that love me to love me. I don’t have to take on the world alone anymore. I can start tearing down those walls I built long ago, they’re not needed anymore.

It’s ok to be strong willed, determined, independent and resilient but understand your limitations and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Allow your friends and family into your circle, allow them to help make your life a little bit easier. If you need something ask for it. If you need a babysitter, help moving, help fixing your car, help coping with life lean on your people. I’m sure if they can, they will and it will build and strengthen your relationship. It feels good to be needed, it feels good to help, why not let them?

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