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Kindness over criticism

Life is like a pot of boiling water. You can put a potato in it and it come out soft, however in that same boiling water you can put a egg in it and it comes out hard.

We are not the same.

It’s not about the water, not about the struggle or even the situation it’s about the person and what’s on the inside.

“It’s no big deal”, “get over it”, “you’re fine”, “suck it up” are all common phrases we use talking to our friends, family, children and spouses. We get in a habit of dismissing others and their feelings. We disregard signs of struggle and sweep them under the rug.

We forget we are not the same.

You and I could go through the exact same situation and come out completely different. We could be in the same car wreck and you could come out feeling inspired, motivated and excited for a second chance at life where I could come out devastated, scared and struggling with ptsd.

We are not the same.

We have to remember that, we have to do better supporting each other and speaking our truths. If you’re sad don’t be scared to say you are and if your friend is hurt don’t feel intrusive by reaching out to comfort them. We worry about things that are irrelevant, that don’t matter. We don’t want to “trigger” someone or bring up hurtful things but what we fail to realize is maybe not talking about the pain is worse, maybe they feel alone maybe they are struggling with some pretty intense demons no one knows about. If they don’t want to talk about it they’ll let you know but what if they do.

See we all fall over and over in life but falling doesn’t hurt, the ground does, surround yourself with people to catch you and be that person to others. Your circle matters. Surround yourself with people that are there to catch you when you fall.

We are so quick to criticize vs praise. We call people out on their shortcomings, we shine light on their flaws. Show kindness, give praise, celebrate victories. Compliment others and offer a helping hand. You don’t know what others are going through be kind.

It reverts back to “if you don’t have nothing nice to say then say nothing at all” practice that regularly.

Life is too short, you never know what tomorrow will bring. Be the light in someone else’s day and surround yourself with positive people. Show kindness over criticism, love over hate, positivity over negativity.

Understand we are not all the same.

Be the change you want to see in the world.

Be blessed and be a blessing

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