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Why me?

When your world is spiraling out of control, when your losses are so frequent, so deep, so much. When you fall so far, so fast and so unexpectedly, the pain is unbearable, the emptiness is endless, the void is so grand, you want to wave the white flag, call a truce with the maker, make deals with the universe, sell your soul, just to make the pain stop. You want to scream to the top of your lungs, pound your fist and ask why me…… why did you have to lose the love of your life, why did you have to have your house destroyed by fire, why did you get in that horrible accident, why did you have to lose a child, why did you end up with cancer? Why? …….why not you?

Are we so conditioned in life we have nothing to learn? In our losses we learn grace, mercy, forgiveness, gratitude, faith. We are humbled by the love and support that comes into our lives, we see people come together in our time of need, we see not just our weaknesses but also our undeniable strengths. We learn gigantic life lessons that may help others. We can no longer focus on the petty crap we once did instead we’re focusing on all that truly matters in life. You don’t fret over your vanity when we’ve survived a car wreck. You don’t take for granted time with your family when you’ve lost a loved one. You don’t waste time on drama when you’ve been diagnosed with a disease.

When you’re lost, when your empty and numb from all the pain don’t ask yourself why me, ask why not me? See what you can gain through your pain. See how you can take this loss and turn into a lesson. Losses are inevitable pain is guaranteed past, present or future it’s going to happen to each and everyone of us and when it does what are you going to take away from it, don’t let it all be in vain.

“Tis better to have loved and lost

Than never to love at all”


We get so caught up in life we forget nothing is guaranteed, tomorrow is not promised. Make the most out of everyday. Do the best you can with what you have and be open to learn, grow and evolve. Share your stories, your testimony, pass on your wisdom. Help others that’s going through what you have. Live your life fully, laugh often and love wholeheartedly. Make today count!

Why me….why not me?

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